Archive for June, 2010

Shhhh…. Its a secret

Posted in Dating on June 22, 2010 by Bright Lights

Living in New York City, you see a lot of beautiful people.  In particular, a lot  of beautiful women.  Whereas the American Dream involves moving to America, working hard, and building a life, the New York Dream (for men) involves moving to New York, making bank, and landing a woman who is out of your league.  This is not to say that women are only interested in money, because that is not true.  But I think that New York is a tough place to have a high standard of living, on a relative scale, and women are attracted to the success that a man would need achieve to be able to live well in New York.  I used to have a saying “only in New York is Woody Allen attractive” and while its overstating its point, its point is simple.  Brains, sense of humor, and perhaps a little eccentricity can be enough to win over a New York City woman.

I recently heard a statistic about New York City dating.  At age 21, a woman will have 8 times as many eligible men to choose from as a 21 year old male.  However, by the time a man is 30 years old, there are 10 women for everyone 1 single man.  Why is this?  I’ll tell you.

It comes down to the fact that women prefer to date older and men prefer to date younger.  A 30 year old man can likely date women from age 18 – 35 years old.  But a 30 year old woman is likely to date men that are 28 – 45 years old.  The thing is, there are plenty of single 18 – 35 year old women.  But most 28 – 45 year old men (the good ones anyway) are taken.  Women have a distinct disadvantage the older they get, whereas men have an advantage as they hit their early 30’s.

To my female readers, there is one major problem with dating a New York City man.  Despite a fancy job, fancy apartment, and maybe a fancy car, New York City men are notorious for extending their adolescence as long as possible.  If you are looking for a guy who wants to settle down, NYC is probably the worst place to look.  I’ll tell you why, but shhhh…. its a secret.

First of all, think of who would move to New York.  Men with dreams of Benjamins, fast cars, fast women, and weekends at the Hamptons.  Do these people sound like they want to settle down?  Why would they.  But even once they are convinced to settle down, the discussion about having kids can easily be pushed aside by simply saying “we can’t afford it.”  And to be honest, its probably true.  That is, unless you are both willing to leave New York City.  As I have written in past posts, leaving New York City can be difficult as the City may become a part of your identity.

In conclusion, we live in a society where men are often considered disposable and a good looking woman can be considered or treated like an object.  Its sad but true.  There is an imbalance of power on both sides that often gets exploited.  And through all this haze, people do manage to find each other.  I think its time we give a proper thank you to Jack and Jose.

Bright Lights, Big City.


Press Lounge @ Ink48 – New York’s Answer to Ghostbar

Posted in Bars on June 7, 2010 by Bright Lights

On Friday night, after a Thai dinner with friends, we headed to Midtown West’s little slice of heaven in the sky called the Press Lounge at the Ink48 Hotel.  Ink48 is the latest and greatest Kimpton hotel in New York.  We got there early so-as to secure a good seat on the massive terrace that overlooks the majestic Manhattan skyline.  As I stared out into the distance and bright lights, I felt like I was transported back to the Ghostbar at The Palms in Las Vegas. 

There is a long shallow pool, as shown above, but it is not for really for swimming.  There is also separate pool for swimming, but it is closed in the evenings during bar hours.  The drink prices are expensive, as one would assume, but given the view and scene in general, you can’t help but feel like you are getting your money’s worth.   

Daytime view from the Press Lounge

Ink48 is located at 653 11th Avenue (48th Street and 11th Avenue) in Manhattan.  Be sure to check it out soon before the B&T crowd takes over.  But even if you have to wait on line to get in, its worth the wait.

And remember, what happens at the Press Lounge, stays at the Press Lounge. 

Bright Lights, Big City.

Pampano Taqueria – This ain’t Taco Bell

Posted in Restaurant on June 3, 2010 by Bright Lights

Well folks, the cat (meeeeeowwww) is out of the bag.  About 7 years ago, a co-worker of mine brought me to Pampano Taqueria (The Taqueria).  They had a wonderful deal at the time.  3 Tacos + Rice & Beans + Soda for $8.  Considering that the Taqueria is a subset of the high-end mexican creation from Richard Sandoval (Pampano), that was a real steal.   Note that if you got that meal today, it costs about $14.50. 

The Taqueria’s specialty was always its fish tacos, using grilled fish instead of fried.  Further, the Taqueria would change the type of fish it used depending on what the chef felt was freshest.   I’m sad to report that the Taqueria recently switched to fried fish and the fish tacos are not what they used to be. 

Steak Alambre, Shrimp, Pulled Pork Tacos

Over the years, I have brought many a friend and co-worker to the Taqueria.  One of my favorite challenges is to bring someone from California (with standards for Mexican cuisine) and get their stamp of approval.  In recent years, Pampano Taqueria has been discovered and re-discovered by the lunch crowd of midtown east.  If you go, expect a line and a 10 minute wait for your food.  But it certainly is worth it.  I almost forgot to mention this, but they have a make your own salsa bar.  How cool is that? 

Salsa Bar (courtesy of


Toppings (courtesy of


 My go-to meal is

1 fish taco (fried king fish, napa cabbage, chipotle sauce)

 1 Camaron (shrimp with black bean and avacado puree)

1 Chicken Alambre (chicken with poblano rajas and manchego cheese)

In conclusion, Pampano Taqueria has had a profound impact on my life.  Its been like an old friend who I can rely on when I am having a bad day.  Through thick and thin, the Taqueria’s food has always put a smile on my face.  Despite my selfish intentions to keep the line as short as possible, I am now sharing this place with you, my loyal readers.

Someday I may not work in Midtown East.  When that day comes, pour some salsa out for me.

Pampano Taqueria is located at in the basement foodcourt at 805 3rd Ave, New York NY10022

Bright Lights. Big City.

Coffee is the new black?

Posted in Trends on June 2, 2010 by Bright Lights

Well folks, on my way to work this morning I played a game.  I would spot a well dressed girl, and before seeing if she was holding a coffee or not, I would guess.  While I didn’t tally my exact success rate, I can honestly say it was better than 75%.  Could it be that coffee is actually an accessory for the fashionista ladies of New York?

Courtesy of Shutterstock

If coffee is an accessory, what message does it convey?  A sense of confidence perhaps?  Or maybe it sends the message that this urban cowgirl is ready to face the world now that she has her caffeine pick-me-up.  If you think that my premise is silly, then consider this.  Why would so many celebu-princesses be willing to be photographed holding coffee if they didn’t think it was flattering?

Maybe I am being facetious when I call it the new black, but honey, if you want to look the part, you’d better stop in at Starbucks if you want to own the Avenue.  And hey, you don’t want to be walking down the street and have someone say “that outfit is hot, too bad she didn’t accessorize with some Dean & De Luca.”

Keep it caffeinated New York.

Bright Lights.  Big City.